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WWYD? Caught my almost 8 yr. old DD lying and stealing my money!

slpeters19 said:
Who are you and what have you done with icoupon2?--:lol::lol::lol::lol:

Just kidding--seriously just kidding!
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I've been trying to stick with the superficial and not get involved in anymore debates here (except for the last 24 hours in the gun control thread, approaching breaking my vow over there!)
 
icoupon2 said:
OK, I've wanted to ask this since it started but I was trying not to start a ruckus. Since we already have a ruckus I might as well ask.

Can someone explain to me the response to stealing by giving her an allowance? :9:

This seems backwards to me. She didn't have money, so she broke a major taboo and stole money (from her mom no less), so the answer is to give her money now? That seems like negative reinforcement to me. I'm not criticizing, I really am trying to understand the rationale.

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I don't think neither I nor anyone else that suggested an allowance meant you should give it to her because she took the money. It was something that kewpon might consider in the future. At that age kids like to buy things on their own--little trinkets, candy, etc. and it teaches them responsibility with money. It's always good to start off young teaching financial responsibility.
 
I think if she had an allowance, she would be less inclined to steal. Just like how people with jobs aren't usually bank robbers. :lol: Her reason for stealing, beyond her friend telling her to, was to buy things at the little store. (I think that's what I read anyway.) If she had a small allowance, she'd be able to buy small things & save up for larger purchases.

I was thinking an allowance eventually, not as a reward for stealing. I think it's a good lesson that you work for your money, you don't take it just because you want something.
 
Here's a chart from Pinterest. Problem solved. Easy Peasy.

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For a while, I thought I caused some of the ruckus. Some of my posts were pretty judgmental. Especially the part about calling kewpon addict's blaming the ghetto she lives in a cop out.

But so many of my posts get ignored, especially those when I ask for nekkid pics.

I know this hasn't been a good day for OP. I know she has read several of the posts here and likely considered some of the advice in some form or other.

But I would like to hear what action she decides on - I am sure she will do what is right for her situation.
 
dragonfly said:
I think if she had an allowance, she would be less inclined to steal. Just like how people with jobs aren't usually bank robbers. :lol: Her reason for stealing, beyond her friend telling her to, was to buy things at the little store. (I think that's what I read anyway.) If she had a small allowance, she'd be able to buy small things & save up for larger purchases.

I was thinking an allowance eventually, not as a reward for stealing. I think it's a good lesson that you work for your money, you don't take it just because you want something.
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I guess I missed some of this, of course kids should get almost everything they wantish (within reason) out of daddy's money no chores needed, that would be sick otherwise to make kids do Mom's job (especially stay ay home Mom's) which includes at least cleaning house, kids rooms, dishes, cooking, laundry, taking kids all over, eating bon bons etc. But my family isn't ghetto so some may not agree if their families are:snort:
 
chgobob33 said:
I guess I missed kids should get almost everything they wantish out of mom's money no chores needed that would be sick, though we weren't ghetto who had kids as slaves (I know many here like the free help/slavey doing their mom jobs), but once they get to like 5 they should get an extra allowance for extra wants again without doing Mom's job for her.
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QFS
 
chgobob33 said:
I guess I missed some of this, of ourse kids should get almost everything they wantish (within reason) out of mom's money no chores needed, that would be sick, though we weren't ghetto who had kids as slaves (I know many here like the free help/slavery doing their mom jobs), but once they get to like 5 they should get an extra allowance for extra wants again without doing Mom's job for her, otherwise why does DH let her eat bon bons for doing nothing :snort:
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Re-QFS, AE
 
kewpon addict said:
Perhaps this is the case. As I've said before it is hard to tell tone, cadence, etc. on the internet. I thought it came across as a tad judgmental but if I misunderstood then that is my bad. I really have no need for drama folks...as you can tell I have enough of my own. Believe me, no one can beat me up better than myself...so no one else needs to do so. After all, I am not perfect, I am just human.[/QUOTE]
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Oh Bob. I'm a SAHM, but I'm not my kids servant. They are in charge of their own rooms & their own laundry, although I do help the new little ones because they are still in training. Eventually the boy will be in charge of lawn maintenance, too. They are also learning to cook, clean, do car repairs, etc. because in X amount of years, they need to be able to survive in the wild. You are so goofy, I can't believe I am responding to you.

KG, I am failing Foster Parenting 101. Send her to Kathy where she will learn how to can food & make a budget work. :lol:
 
She's not failing (dragonfly). They just don't tell you the Full Monty beforehand, because if they did, nobody would do it.

Sooner or later it will click! It's kinda like training a willful dog!

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And, Kewpon, just so you know, my DD7 is STILL writing. She is amusing herself sitting at her desk, which has nothing more than a chair & a desk...nothing on the desk, blinds shut so she isn't distracted by anything outside. She has sat there for HOURS, seriously probably 7 hours at this point. At some point it will click that she can get it done or sit there every free moment until she is 18. I keep telling her, "You could be playing, instead you are goofing around." She thinks she is winning something because I keep checking in on her. Today after school I will not check on her once, to reestablish that this is my deal, not hers, and she can be bored alone & take another 7 hours if she wants.
 
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