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so what are you thinking right now?

I am so annoyed.

Let me start by saying dh has kids from a previous marriage. DH married his first wife when he was 17 and they right away had kids, so the kids are older. His youngest is 23. Well, his son called today and informed us that he has "assigned" us a gift from the baby registry at Target. His wife is pregnant with their first son, she is due late December. He informed us he assigned us the changing table but we are free to buy any additional gifts from the registry we want. Ummmmmm, since when are people assigned gifts! He also asked we buy the changing table ASAP as he wants to get the room together as soon as possible. he asked we do not wait for the baby shower as he wants to have everything ready well before then. He then asked when can they expect the changing table?

Am I being overly sensitive? The whole conversation really annoyed me!

Keep in mind we only hear from dh's kids when they need money. They are never available for get togethers or parties. As long as I have known them they have never gotten dh a fathers day gift or birthday gift. They are always too busy to spend time with him. This particular son did once help us mount a tv after we moved but he charged us for helping. As he was leaving he said, that will be $80. I thought he was kidding, he was serious. He spent 4 hours with us. Apparently, the way he saw it he spent his free time "working" so he should be compensated.

I wish I was exaggerating about their relationship with dh (I can tell it really hurts him) but I can honestly say I can't remember a conversation that did not begin with, I need money....during Christmas they ask for gas money when they come pick up their presents.

I never say anything negative because I know dh is kinda touchy about his kids but I am seriously annoyed.
 
Wait, did I mention that dh has not found a job yet! He has not worked full time since January! We are seriously struggling. The emergency cash is gone. I am babysitting friends kids for extra money, dh found a part time position but we are living on 1/3 of the salary we used to....money is tight!!!! We are applying left and right and nothing! Now we have to squeeze a changing table from our restricted budget!!!
 
caddyh301 said:
This particular son did once help us mount a tv after we moved but he charged us for helping. As he was leaving he said, that will be $80. I thought he was kidding, he was serious. He spent 4 hours with us. Apparently, the way he saw it he spent his free time "working" so he should be compensated.
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:eek: :eek: :eek: I have no words.
 
mrsmom said:
:eek: :eek: :eek: I have no words.
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dh paid him and I wanted to say, are we paying family now? if so, we owe my family a **** load of money!!! They babysit, they helped us move, they cook and clean for us when we are sick, take our kids to activities when we re not able to do so, let us borrow their cars when ours break down...the list goes on and on....

I said nothing though, I sat there smiling while he paid him. After he left, dh made excuses for him. He kept saying how it was money well spent because the tv looked so nice.
 
WOW! That is crazy rude, but sounds typical given the way he's acted in the past :pout: I think it's great that you're being sensitive to DH and his feelings for his son... he's probably hurting and embarrassed, but trying to make it look like it doesn't bother him. I would talk it over with DH and discuss why getting that changing table (or anything else that is "demanded" of you) is not possible or appropriate at this time ... well, or any other time, for the demanding part anyway... DH may be afraid his son will break off all contact, and especially now, with a little one coming, that's understandable. I think something needs to be said though, and the sooner the better,... he shouldn't be allowed to disrespect his father and you any longer... I'm sorry :huggy:
 
ITA with cookie and another thing.............a changing table is not a serious need. You can change the kid on a bed or couch. :rolleyes:
 
Holy **** caddyh, that is crazy! I am so sorry, really! My DH's whole family are that way. It is just crazy...it totally sucks. I feel for your DH. I wish I could tell you it will get better but I just doubt it...unless his kids actually mature. good luck and HUGS.

caddyh301 said:
I am so annoyed.

Let me start by saying dh has kids from a previous marriage. DH married his first wife when he was 17 and they right away had kids, so the kids are older. His youngest is 23. Well, his son called today and informed us that he has "assigned" us a gift from the baby registry at Target. His wife is pregnant with their first son, she is due late December. He informed us he assigned us the changing table but we are free to buy any additional gifts from the registry we want. Ummmmmm, since when are people assigned gifts! He also asked we buy the changing table ASAP as he wants to get the room together as soon as possible. he asked we do not wait for the baby shower as he wants to have everything ready well before then. He then asked when can they expect the changing table?

Am I being overly sensitive? The whole conversation really annoyed me!

Keep in mind we only hear from dh's kids when they need money. They are never available for get togethers or parties. As long as I have known them they have never gotten dh a fathers day gift or birthday gift. They are always too busy to spend time with him. This particular son did once help us mount a tv after we moved but he charged us for helping. As he was leaving he said, that will be $80. I thought he was kidding, he was serious. He spent 4 hours with us. Apparently, the way he saw it he spent his free time "working" so he should be compensated.

I wish I was exaggerating about their relationship with dh (I can tell it really hurts him) but I can honestly say I can't remember a conversation that did not begin with, I need money....during Christmas they ask for gas money when they come pick up their presents.

I never say anything negative because I know dh is kinda touchy about his kids but I am seriously annoyed.
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Why did DWTS ask Bristol back for the All Stars???

Pajama Jeans are clearanced to $25 @ the Tipton IA Walmart...if they go to $10 and have my size, I may bite...I did buy some Grout Bully for $6 last week, but am waiting for cooler weather to test it out...
 
toger said:
Why did DWTS ask Bristol back for the All Stars???
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I was semi-interested in watching the next go-round, until I read she's in the cast. Barf.

The list:
"Pamela Anderson, Kelly Monaco, Emmitt Smith, Melissa Rycroft, Joey Fatone, Helio Castroneves, Drew Lachey, Bristol Palin, Kirstie Alley, Apolo Anton Ohno, Shawn Johnson and Gilles Marini.

And for the first time, viewers will vote for a 13th cast member, either Kyle Massey, Carson Kressley or Sabrina Bryan"

Only Gilles Marini holds some appeal, the rest, bleechhh.
 
caddyh301 said:
I am so annoyed.

Let me start by saying dh has kids from a previous marriage. DH married his first wife when he was 17 and they right away had kids, so the kids are older. His youngest is 23. Well, his son called today and informed us that he has "assigned" us a gift from the baby registry at Target. His wife is pregnant with their first son, she is due late December. He informed us he assigned us the changing table but we are free to buy any additional gifts from the registry we want. Ummmmmm, since when are people assigned gifts! He also asked we buy the changing table ASAP as he wants to get the room together as soon as possible. he asked we do not wait for the baby shower as he wants to have everything ready well before then. He then asked when can they expect the changing table?

Am I being overly sensitive? The whole conversation really annoyed me!

Keep in mind we only hear from dh's kids when they need money. They are never available for get togethers or parties. As long as I have known them they have never gotten dh a fathers day gift or birthday gift. They are always too busy to spend time with him. This particular son did once help us mount a tv after we moved but he charged us for helping. As he was leaving he said, that will be $80. I thought he was kidding, he was serious. He spent 4 hours with us. Apparently, the way he saw it he spent his free time "working" so he should be compensated.

I wish I was exaggerating about their relationship with dh (I can tell it really hurts him) but I can honestly say I can't remember a conversation that did not begin with, I need money....during Christmas they ask for gas money when they come pick up their presents.

I never say anything negative because I know dh is kinda touchy about his kids but I am seriously annoyed.
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This is absolutely crazy. Tell him you already picked a gift for your grandchild, then knit a baby blanket.
 
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