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DS (8) had a friend of his ask him to sleepover tonight. I said yes. Then I talked to the kids mom. Turns out the plan is I drop ds off at his friends house, the friends grandma (who I've never met) picks up both boys. Takes them to a movie and then they sleepover at grandmas house, which is about a half hour from here. Would you let your kid go?
 
how well do you know the boys family--like are they bff's?? that would be a deciding factor to me, --well at least a starting point..
 
If your son weren't friends with the boy, would you allow this woman (and virtual stranger) to drive and babysit your son overnight?
 
focadima said:
how well do you know the boys family--like are they bff's?? that would be a deciding factor to me, --well at least a starting point..
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He's a pretty close friend, but not a bff. Ds has slept over at his house once before.
 
koelikamp said:
I would say no, but I am wildly overprotective:)
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I agree!

I have an 8 yo and I would say no. I don't like others driving my kids around. The grandma may be the nicest, sweetest person on earth but I don't know what kind of driver she is. And taking the kids back to her house? She is a stranger to you so I would say nope, I wouldn't do it.
 
KG said:
If your son weren't friends with the boy, would you allow this woman (and virtual stranger) to drive and babysit your son overnight?
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Hell no. And that was my first thought when she suggested it. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being too overprotective (which I tend to do).
 
The mom said if he (ds) is uncomfortable with it they could do the movie with grandma, then go back to the kids house to sleep. But he's still in the car with grandma and it ruins the parents plans I'm sure.

Then I thought maybe he could go to the movie with grandma, then she drops off both boys to sleep at my house. But he's still in the car with grandma, although not nearly as far.

Now I'm thinking just let the friend go to grandma's by himself and let ds have him over next weekend. Or even tomorrow.
 
So I called the mom back and told her I wasn't comfortable with it. That we were going to skip tonight but would love to have her ds sleepover next weekend. She was really understanding.
So ds just has to wait another week. He's bummed. He wasn't really comfortable with the sleepover, but he did want to go to the movie. I offered to get a Redbox tonight, and he said he wasn't interested. Then I offered to take the kids to the movies tomorrow. But I'd have to take my 11mo old since dh is working, so he said he didn't want to do that either.
 
You tried. He will get over it.

It is good to sometimes have them have to adjust to the plans or change them up a little. Flexibility in plans is hard to learn and will make things easier in the future for him.
 
Another vote for no way. My DS10 has never yet spent the night at a friend's house (and I think it will be a while before he does).
 
Definite no way for me. You did the right thing. Speaking of....my ds 10 is at a friends tonight and I know he is at a safe place and is only 5 blocks away but I still prefer him home. I'm overprotective too. lol
 
I always think past...kwm?

I was wondering WHY would someone invite your child over to spend the night...at grandmas?!?! Kind of weird.

I assume it was more like this.....they wanted a date nigt or something...and wanted DS to stay overnight at Grandma's. He complains it is BORING at grandma's. They say "what if you invite "Blonditz's son name here" over to stay with you? You can go to the movies and have a sleepover.

I can't think of any other way that happens.

"DS wants to have a sleep over"
"Great idea....but for gosh sakes, have it be at your mother's house"

ROFL
 
I've been thinking more about this and I realize I've been on a ID telethon watching jag so am extra paranoid but it just seems like a situation that after something bad happened everyone would wonder why you let your kid go into that situation. Who knows who other people have at their home?
 
Barb09 said:
I always think past...kwm?

I was wondering WHY would someone invite your child over to spend the night...at grandmas?!?! Kind of weird.

I assume it was more like this.....they wanted a date nigt or something...and wanted DS to stay overnight at Grandma's. He complains it is BORING at grandma's. They say "what if you invite "Blonditz's son name here" over to stay with you? You can go to the movies and have a sleepover.

I can't think of any other way that happens.

"DS wants to have a sleep over"
"Great idea....but for gosh sakes, have it be at your mother's house"

ROFL
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I kinda thought the same thing, but figured either.
A. they forgot he had plans with grandma and made plans with ds
B. The boys made plans on Wed, so maybe grandma called yesterday/today and offered to take the kids

Either way they were just trying to avoid canceling. But who knows.
 
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