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I look at racism as more ignorance than anything, because the people passing judgement or making comments have no clue about that persons background. I think at some point we have all been victims to it whether it is about your race, age, weight, disability, whatever..but the questions people ask can be weird though..

Is that your hair or a weave??? Umm my hair, thanks!!
Can i touch it..lol

My daughter looks like she is from at least 3 different backgrounds besides black (Dominican, from India or Puerto Rico..lol), A little girl approached her and said " what are you?"...i thought it was funny because she was just curious.


I can recall while living in Romeoville, getting pulled over by an officer and him questioning us to no end, where did you get the money to afford this type of car?(From working) Who do you know who lives in this area?( Umm we live here) Are you renting that house?? (Not according to the mortgage company)..His assumption was that we had to be doing something illegal. He was pissed that he could not find anything wrong..lol..
 
Oh you want "my" story??? You want to know how racism has affected me??? How about when I had to explain to my hysterical 9 year old what the "N" word means and what the word racist means??? Why did I have to explain it? Because in my son's school there is a little black boy whose parents have taught him that everyone is out to get him and it is because everyone is a racist! So because my son's table at lunch was full the boy went and told the principle that my son and the other kids at the table said the "n" word and that is why the boy couldn't sit at the table. So we had to explain to my son what the word was and is was visibly upset. Did I mention that my stepdaughter is mixed? So fast forward to later that day when I went to pick my boys up from the boys and girls club where I caught that same little boy telling everyone that my son was a racist-yelling it. My son is hysterical. And here comes the boy up to a worker accusing yet another kid of using the same word. So I guess in this case it stings me when parents teach thier kids that everything is racism and they should pull the race card to get whatever they want!

Next one-just went to court Thursday over this one-the guy is trying to get a misdemeaner plea bargain. I was in the gas station when the bar across the street let out. My neighbor who is half Mexican walked in the gas station door. His wife (not Hispanic) and brother (different dad not Hispanic) were in the car. I hear guys yelling from outside. Neighbor walks to the door and says something like "what did you say?" then walks back in gas station. I again hear the yelling and it won't stop so he walks back out the door as 3 guys were approaching. Long story short I end up in the middle of 5 guys fighting, got thrown to the ground and lost my voice trying to break it up. My neighbor's brother-who is not even Mexican ended up with a cut on his eye and a broken nose when he got punched by some drunk 22 year old kid. His medical bills are over $8500 right now with no insurance and that's not including lost wages or anything. Wanna know what started it all? Wanna know what those guys were yelling?? They were screaming at my neighbor and his brother telling them "you ****ing spics go back where you came from!".

Do I need to go into the story from high school when we were at the mall and I had met up with a few of my friends (white, hispanic and black). We walk outside and the next thing I know a few guys are trying to beat the crap out of one of my friends because he was black....Did I mention we were like 16????


So it is not that I think racism doesn't exist or anything I just had never looked at it the way others had posted it!


Mikerocosms said:
That thread didn't have anything mentioning no flaming whatsoever and for people to be on their best behavior. I didn't "flame" anyone and all I did was make a comment. You mean to tell me you have never had a time when someone said something to you and you thought "hmm never thought of it that way. I've always assumed it was this"?????? Now if I or anyone else for that matter would have opened up a thread debating the issues of racism, by all means debate it. I wasn't debating anything!!! I simply asked that this thread be simply about stories. I think 90% of threads end up going off topic here in the "off topic" forum!

I will not be going back to your last comment or any other comments from you on this thread unless you share a story of your own. At the top! I'm done arguing my point. Feel free to continue your rantings or ravings about me, I can take it. It wasn't ranting and ravings. I responded to your comment and said that no one was dismissing anyone's feelings!



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Mikerocosms said:
That thread didn't have anything mentioning no flaming whatsoever and for people to be on their best behavior. I think this is a sad defense! Now if I or anyone else for that matter would have opened up a thread debating the issues of racism, by all means debate it. I simply asked that this thread be simply about stories.

I will not be going back to your last comment or any other comments from you on this thread unless you share a story of your own. I'm done arguing my point. Feel free to continue your rantings or ravings about me, I can take it.



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And I didn't realize that it was up to the OP of a thread to decide if it is okay for one to offend another as you did to many in the thread mentioned previously. Then again that thread went "off topic". Yet I took your words as an opinion and tried to understand your reasoning-even defended you. Yet I am not allowed to have an opinion or a thought because this subject is close to you!
 
Mikerocosms said:
That thread didn't have anything mentioning no flaming whatsoever and for people to be on their best behavior. Now if I or anyone else for that matter would have opened up a thread debating the issues of racism, by all means debate it. I simply asked that this thread be simply about stories.

I will not be going back to your last comment or any other comments from you on this thread unless you share a story of your own. I'm done arguing my point. Feel free to continue your rantings or ravings about me, I can take it.



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Honestly, this is a message board, the off topic forum no less. Just because you put a "don't pick on me" sign on a post doesn't really mean anything. We discuss things openly here. I really think that trend is just silly and pointless.
 
I asked not to pick on anyone. I was defending others not just my post. I wanted no one to post things about others as to not scare them from sharing their thoughts. I seem to have lost that battle. I will not be sharing my father's or my sister's stories.



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Mikerocosms said:
I asked not to pick on anyone. I was defending others not just my post. I wanted no one to post things about others as to not scare them from sharing their thoughts. I seem to have lost that battle. I will not be sharing my father's or my sister's stories.



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Oh come on now......I shared of few of my experiences!
 
Mikerocosms said:
I asked not to pick on anyone. I was defending others not just my post. I wanted no one to post things about others as to not scare them from sharing their thoughts. I seem to have lost that battle. I will not be sharing my father's or my sister's stories.
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I gots no problem with this Mike. I thought I read it all but who picked on whom? (I hope it wasn't me :hides:)

I also have a question, but it's not fully formed yet......regarding like when my boys (white) have questions about black peeps and or say or ask "color" questions to or about black people. I've taught them not to refer to a person for example "that black guy over there" but rather "that guy in the blue shirt", etc. SO now my almost 11 year old son asked if saying that someone is black is a bad thing? To which I try to explain time and place and all that. He has had similar questions and my 8 year old who has no filter whatsoever flat out says things like "how does it feel to have skin like that?" to a new neighborhood friend who is very dark skinned. I heard him out the window and was mortified, but didn't say anything as not to make it a big deal. The boy is a few years older so he just looked at him like he was goofy and said "What? You're silly." and smiled. Pwew....he wasn't offended that I know of.

I have a feeling that "color" conversations come up earlier and more often in black families than they do in my family which is to say almost never.
 
Barb09 said:
LOL, when people ask dh where he is from it depends on his mood.

Sometimes he says "chicago" and other times it could be any country in the world.

"Oooooh, where are you from???"
"Sweden"
"Oooooooooh"

or he picks any Arab country.

I never understand why he doesn't just answer them. I think he feels that it doesn't matter where he is from (to a stranger at the gas station, lol)
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I wouldn't ask someone that I casually met but I went to a dr. once and he was obviously foreign born. I wouldn't even have asked but his mannerisms and accent reminded me so much of my Turkish neighbors.

I asked him what country he came from originally and he told me to guess. It's not Turkey, lol! He's from Mexico City...guess that's different than plain old Mexico?!
 
One of the wonderful things about working with young children is they don't have any issues with race, weight, sex... they just love anyone who loves them.
 
I know this is the OT forum but this thread had a topic. It sickens me to think that this could have been a solid story sharing thread where we could release some of our pain but it has been ruined. I could care less if anyone has to say anything to or about me. I just wanted the original purpose of this thread to flourish.

Hell if anyone had to say something about what was said in this thread they could have created their own topic for it. I would have gladly joined in on the conversation. But nooo, it had to happen here.


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Lauri said:
One of the wonderful things about working with young children is they don't have any issues with race, weight, sex... they just love anyone who loves them.
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I've seen young children say things too. Obviously taught by their parents.



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Mikerocosms said:
I know this is the OT forum but this thread had a topic. It sickens me to think that this could have been a solid story sharing thread where we could release some of our pain but it has been ruined. I could care less if anyone has to say anything to or about me. I just wanted the original purpose of this thread to flourish.

Hell if anyone had to say something about what was said in this thread they could have created their own topic for it. I would have gladly joined in on the conversation. But nooo, it had to happen here.


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Mike what are you talking about? Several of us shared stuff.....who **** in it and was the **** that big and stinky enough to ruin the thread?

Let's get back to business here. So tell us your deal. :bee:
 
Mikerocosms said:
I know this is the OT forum but this thread had a topic. It sickens me to think that this could have been a solid story sharing thread where we could release some of our pain but it has been ruined. I could care less if anyone has to say anything to or about me. I just wanted the original purpose of this thread to flourish.

Hell if anyone had to say something about what was said in this thread they could have created their own topic for it. I would have gladly joined in on the conversation. But nooo, it had to happen here.


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Pretty much all threads do. Loads of them veer off the original topic. That's how conversations go. That's how life goes.

I think we all need to go out and buy a stockpile of big girl panties and not forget to put them on each day, and yes, I know you're a guy.
 
At first people began to debate what was called racism. I mentioned for people to not dismiss the feelings of previous posters. I felt that if someone posted their story and felt that it was racist enough to post then so be it we should read it and post our situation. I did not want this thread to become a debate. I just wanted it to be a shared experience thread.

Look at it now. Its a debate thread with less and less stories.



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Mikerocosms said:
Look at it now. Its a debate thread with less and less stories.
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Because you keep whining! Post your stories and it will get back on track. I posted stuff today about my kids being unsure of what is appropriate to discuss, say, etc. and I would love some feedback from black peeps like "yes we get highly offended, teach your kids better" or "nah, it's not that big of a deal." or whatever.
 
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