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What We Wear| Are The Reactions Our Fault?

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So as you may have guessed by this post being in the Sex, Sexuality and Bodily Discussions this is about perhaps the more scandalous choices of clothing and what they mean for us.

If a woman receives unwanted attention due to her rather revealing clothes choices, do you feel it's her fault for wearing what she is or that she should expect it and cover up?
If a man receives unwanted attention due to his rather revealing clothes choices, do you feel it's his fault for wearing what he is or that he should expect it and cover up?

Same for both genders? Or difference?
 
I think anyone should be allowed to wear whatever they like without getting hassle/unwanted attention for it.
It shouldn't be a matter of not wearing what you feel comfortable or good about yourself in to try and avoid unwanted attention, it should be a matter of people being more accepting, tolerant, and keeping comments to themselves.
If I wanted to walk around town in a bikini, then I should be free to do so without getting wolf whistles or disapproving comments/stares. Same goes for men in whatever they choose to wear.
 
Different styles of clothing have different perceptions for a reason. Wearing revealing clothing has sexual undertones whether we want to admit it or not. If it didn't then why don't we wear Speedos or a bikini to work at the office?

Along those lines, if someone does choose to expose their body in public then they need to be honest with themselves about how people realistically will react to it.

Vampenstine said:
If I wanted to walk around town in a bikini, then I should be free to do so without getting wolf whistles or disapproving comments/stares. Same goes for men in whatever they choose to wear.
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If you did that then I don't think people could be blamed for assuming you to be receptive to their attention, since you're inadvertently sending a message of approval by wearing revealing clothes to begin with (otherwise you'd cover yourself up.) If you enjoyed hanging out on streetcorners wearing fishnets and stilettos could you blame passersby for thinking you were a prostitute?
 
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If we say "oh, you were wearing X, you asked for it," that's almost asking for a slippery slope down into victim-blaming for assault, imo. No matter which sex we're talking about here, male or female. It happens to both, and it shouldn't.
 
See I personally think that you can see it from both sides.

If a man or a woman goes out wearing very revealing and naughty clothing, why shouldn't they expect to get looked at? Honestly, I doubt anyone would dress that way if that wasn't the desired reaction. I wouldn't go out wearing a sexy red dress that gave clear view of my cleavage or legs because
1.) I don't want people leering at me
2.) It's invitation for people to do that

Then again, if someone gets touched/assaulted or raped I do believe it is not the victim's fault. Although they were revealing themselves in that manner, it's other people's responsibility to behave maturely and respectfully regardless.
 
Yes... what people think about you based on changeable parts of your appearance is your fault. If you don't want to be called a raccoon, don't smother your eyes in eyeliner. If you don't want to be called a skank, don't wear ****-grabbers and short shirts to school with bras that has 6 inches of padding in them. There is a girl in my school that walks around with her boobs literally at her collarbone. It's disgusting, and therefore I classify her as trashy. It wouldn't be as trashy if she took attention to other factors such as her hair and hygiene as much as she did her ****.

I also see boys that wear really short sport shorts and then socks up to their thighs. I consider that quite... "jock"ish, as well as a lot of other people.

Along with wardrobe, if you don't want people thinking you're nasty or smell bad, wash yourself once in a while and put on deodorant. I know one kid in my school cannot because he cannot afford his water bill most of the time, but others that purposefully don't do it or just don't care deserve the critical judgement.
 
I think it is more complex. I feel that females wear revealing clothes because they are instinctively attempting to look the most attractive in order to acquire a "mate". This goes the same for men. Men have to show off their muscles and all to show the opposite sex that he is strong and would produce good off spring. All this is done almost unconsciously with most people.

As far as comments and who's fault it is, a lot of people are immature and will leer and make insulting comments, that will never change. And no, it's no one's fault.
 
Ringo said:
Yes... what people think about you based on changeable parts of your appearance is your fault. If you don't want to be called a raccoon, don't smother your eyes in eyeliner. If you don't want to be called a skank, don't wear ****-grabbers and short shirts to school with bras that has 6 inches of padding in them. There is a girl in my school that walks around with her boobs literally at her collarbone. It's disgusting, and therefore I classify her as trashy. It wouldn't be as trashy if she took attention to other factors such as her hair and hygiene as much as she did her ****.

I also see boys that wear really short sport shorts and then socks up to their thighs. I consider that quite... "jock"ish, as well as a lot of other people.

Along with wardrobe, if you don't want people thinking you're nasty or smell bad, wash yourself once in a while and put on deodorant. I know one kid in my school cannot because he cannot afford his water bill most of the time, but others that purposefully don't do it or just don't care deserve the critical judgement.
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While I'm generally quite against "****-shaming," I honestly agree with this. It's never the victim's fault if they get assaulted in some way no matter what they're wearing- but as far as for being looked at as "trashy" for wearing certain stuff, yupyup, that's their own problem.
 
In my opinion, people judge others no matter what.
So, in a sense, it's not really their fault if someone judges them based on what they wear.

Now, if someone hurts them based on what they're wearing, then that's DEFINITELY not their fault... But if someone passes a judgement about them, it's still not really their "fault". People are going to judge you no matter what you're wearing. What difference does it make if they're saying, "Oh, she's a ****" or "Oh, he's a nerd"?
 
People can wear whatever they want, but reality eventually strikes you down. Yes you shouldn't get molested for wearing just your underwear, but if you really don't want that kind of attention placed on you, wear something else. "Ermegerd, why was he just looking at my butt???/////?" Well ****, maybe it's because you had obnoxiously short shorts, a thong sticking out, and there was giant print on the back saying, "Cutie" in cursive.
 
Ben said:
People can wear whatever they want, but reality eventually strikes you down. Yes you shouldn't get molested for wearing just your underwear, but if you really don't want that kind of attention placed on you, wear something else. "Ermegerd, why was he just looking at my butt???/////?" Well ****, maybe it's because you had obnoxiously short shorts, a thong sticking out, and there was giant print on the back saying, "Cutie" in cursive.
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I have to agree with this...
 
I will speak for myself and i am rpetty sure it applies to most girls.. When we pick a sweater with a clivage, we all know why we pick it. we want to get someone's or anyone's attention. everyone did that at some point. same goes for bottom parts. when i go out, i always dress up like that because i deliberately want to get man's attention. I am not stupid. girls are not stupid.

what sometimes happens is that we bring what we think it's a fairly normal clothing and there's these ****s who won't stop starring. There's always that kind. But that is not your fault. They are stupid by nature.
 
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