Sometimes you have to be full on with a guy by jsut saying 'right I fancy you, you interested' because I'm sorry but I've only had what four guys? and I already know that...shakes head...they are somewhat oblivious sometimes *laughs*
Umm...boys who think they are men
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Nightwolf04 said:
Umm.... There's a reason sometimes you just have to be straightforward with a guy. In fact, I actually prefer it when a girl is. Why? Because I for one, find it insanely difficult to pick up on the 'little signs' that girls claim to throw. And I for one find these signs in no way obvious. I find the whole silent signal thing completely confusing, excessively complicated, and in no way shape or form do I find it understandable. If a girl smiles at me: I wonder if my shirts dirty, I didn't realize it before I put it on and she's laughing. If she quickly looks away when I make eye contact with her, then clearly she's not interested. If she's staring at me, then I get confused and I start to think "What the hell, I just checked this shirt for dirt and found none!" Maybe I just don't understand it, but it's not like there's any clear rules to this stupid game, or guide to what "-insert signal here- means". I don't F-ing understand, because I can't read minds! I don't have Telepathy, and I can't kill a yak with mind bullets!
You have to admit there is a thrill in the chase!
Ive tried doin the whole obvious thing. It didnt work lol :D
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If a woman is bent on pursuing me too much, I panic and run! Just ask Maureen, Gloria, Shirley, Margaret, Carol, Mary, Anne, Heather, Kathy, Joanne, Tina.... Just fooling with you! LOL I am flattered by attention but I am careful as well. I swear I will never be able to figure out women. Very complicated but lovely subjects. They are one subject I never complain about studying!
I have to say I'm with Korwin on this one. If a girl doesn't flat-out tell me she's interested - I'm oblivious. I found out years later that apparently one of the good friends I had a crush on in high school had a crush on me too! What a wasted opportunity! Had I had the guts to say anything, or had she made her feelings known, that could have been a great relationship. Of course it could also have ended horribly with us being bitter enemies, but now I'll never know and that bugs the heck outta me. 
the chase sucks. i don't understand why two people can't say "i like you" and then see what happens. no. there has to be this whole secret ritual of signals and hidden feelings and you can't say anything or else they will think you are desperate..blah. i have to agree with the rest of the guys that it is all both confusing and annoying.
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Boy meets girl; boy likes girl; boy suddenly looses all abilities to communicate! What is wrong with saying how you feel. Express your interest in her or him and let the chips fall where they may. It is a waste of your time chasing someone who may not feel the same way about you.
I have never met a girl who thought I was desperate because I asked them out; if they did I wasn't aware of their feeling I was a desperate person.
Yes or no - simple answers. Yes, I wish to go out with you or no, get lost loser. Simple! pining away over some girl is a waste of time in my opinion. If she doesn't have the same feelings for you there are plenty more who might think you are the best thing since sliced bread.
Forget the whole secret ritual of signals and hidden feelings. Who is doing the hiding? You or her? If it is you then tell her! The worst case scenario she says she is not interested. If she is hiding her feelings how would you know? Call her on it. For example if you are communicating and believe she is sending you vibes that she is interested then call her on it.
Another example: you are e-mailing each other and you say I wish I was there with you. She replies I wish you were too. Gotcha! Go with that. Repeat or "parrot" what she just typed. "I said that I wish I was there with you and you said you wished I was with you too, do you really feel that way or am I reading something into what you said? Don't ask open - ended questions. Ask questions that require a yes or no answer so she can't dazzle you with BS and not answer your question.
So that is my Anne Landers comment for tonight. I hope it makes some sense.
Rascal said:
Boy meets girl; boy likes girl; boy suddenly looses all abilities to communicate! What is wrong with saying how you feel. Express your interest in her or him and let the chips fall where they may. It is a waste of your time chasing someone who may not feel the same way about you.
I have never met a girl who thought I was desperate because I asked them out; if they did I wasn't aware of their feeling I was a desperate person.
Yes or no - simple answers. Yes, I wish to go out with you or no, get lost loser. Simple! pining away over some girl is a waste of time in my opinion. If she doesn't have the same feelings for you there are plenty more who might think you are the best thing since sliced bread.
Forget the whole secret ritual of signals and hidden feelings. Who is doing the hiding? You or her? If it is you then tell her! The worst case scenario she says she is not interested. If she is hiding her feelings how would you know? Call her on it. For example if you are communicating and believe she is sending you vibes that she is interested then call her on it.
Another example: you are e-mailing each other and you say I wish I was there with you. She replies I wish you were too. Gotcha! Go with that. Repeat or "parrot" what she just typed. "I said that I wish I was there with you and you said you wished I was with you too, do you really feel that way or am I reading something into what you said? Don't ask open - ended questions. Ask questions that require a yes or no answer so she can't dazzle you with BS and not answer your question.
So that is my Anne Landers comment for tonight. I hope it makes some sense.
There really isn't much thrill in a chase. I've chased, I've dealt with mindgames, and I've played with guys (and a few gals) who wanted to be coy. Gotta' agree with Korwin. It's stupid. Give me the direct approach any day.
By the time I met my darling husband, I was tired of all of it. I moved him in with me as a favor to a boyfriend at the time, and when things got sour with that relationship (jealousy factors on the former boyfriend's part regarding the amount of time I had to spend with my then-two year old), I waited about a year for the future Mr. Dragon to make a move. When nothing happened...I took matters into my own hands. Best decision I've ever made. (`Specially since he later admitted that he wasn't sure I was interested in him since I'd thrown the ex out of my life.)
By the time I met my darling husband, I was tired of all of it. I moved him in with me as a favor to a boyfriend at the time, and when things got sour with that relationship (jealousy factors on the former boyfriend's part regarding the amount of time I had to spend with my then-two year old), I waited about a year for the future Mr. Dragon to make a move. When nothing happened...I took matters into my own hands. Best decision I've ever made. (`Specially since he later admitted that he wasn't sure I was interested in him since I'd thrown the ex out of my life.)
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Well, Pyxidragon can't say I have ever had the desire for another man but I have dated a woman in the past who also spent time with the "girls". Matter of fact she left me for one! And to be honest if my girl is going to dump me I'd rather lose to another woman than to another man! Call it male pride or whatever, I don't know what it is just that my ego doesn't seem to suffer as much if my rival is a woman!
Hey Irish, introduce me to your girlfriend. Be a pal! (just joking)
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Talking in riddles again are we Ladies? Last time I checked I was single and exiled to the unavailable list. Summer romancing took too much out of me hence I am eagerly preparing for a long awaited hibernation throughout the winter. Time to regroup and recharge! Which reminds me - I must find a safe place to hide my nuts -I wouldn't want my stash invaded!
Too late. Anyhow womenthe only ones who speak riddles, if men would simply say what they want instead of saying what they think will make us happy then things would go more smoothly. perhaps we should all wear signs that say what our real intentions are. such as: looking to retire, love 'em and leave 'em..etc. That would be funny to see actually.
(I'll admit, at first at least, I haven't taken the time to read 6 pages of responses yet, so I might be replying out of context.)
I saw a poster once I'm sorry I didn't buy. It had a toddler boy, less then 5 in a plastic car; and next to him was his father in a ferrari. The caption was, "the only difference between men and boys is the price of the toys."
There's some truth to that. I hope I live up to it. On some level I want very much to never grow up - There's two things age brings; physical weakness/death and wisdom. Wisdom usually comes when it's too late to really use it. If I could, I would still watch saturday morning cartoons on the weekend. (Problem is Saturday morning cartoons these days (the ones that are left), REALLY SUCK).
Having said that, I gather from the posts on the last page that this a series of men and women complaining about the head games each other engage in. I hate to tell you this guys & gals, but if you're lucky, that won't ever go away. I've met couples that have been together 50+ years and still can't give each other a straight answer. People need to just accept it. It's not even exclusive. Heterosexual guys play mind games on each other, they're just way more obvious about it. We just complain about women's mind games, because we aren't nearly as good at it. If we were smarter, we'd be taking notes.
"if men would simply say what they want instead of saying what they think will make us happy then things would go more smoothly"
Not to contradict you mustang, but this will NEVER HAPPEN, and really only happens in sitcoms right before the man gets yelled at. Both sexes don't like to admit it, but I will, there is some truth to the gender stereotypes. If they were completely and patently false, nobody would believe them. The reason men say what they think will make you happy is because they want to make you happy. Is that so hard to understand?? Women some how managed to convince themselves that men are incredibly complicated, I have no idea how. Every week for ten years I've been going through the grocery stores with women's magazines by the cash register. Almost every week they claim to be revealing AMAZING SECRETS, MEN WON'T TELL! How many secrets do they think we're hiding??
(And for the record, I will admit I am hardly qualified to provide insights on relationships. I'm a confirmed bachelor, always have been, always will be. If there is a Mrs. Jadedcritic, knowing my luck, she's married to an abusive used car salesman who doesn't appreciate her.) So if you dissaprove of me, take consolation in the fact that I am likely out of the gene pool :toothy10:
I saw a poster once I'm sorry I didn't buy. It had a toddler boy, less then 5 in a plastic car; and next to him was his father in a ferrari. The caption was, "the only difference between men and boys is the price of the toys."
There's some truth to that. I hope I live up to it. On some level I want very much to never grow up - There's two things age brings; physical weakness/death and wisdom. Wisdom usually comes when it's too late to really use it. If I could, I would still watch saturday morning cartoons on the weekend. (Problem is Saturday morning cartoons these days (the ones that are left), REALLY SUCK).
Having said that, I gather from the posts on the last page that this a series of men and women complaining about the head games each other engage in. I hate to tell you this guys & gals, but if you're lucky, that won't ever go away. I've met couples that have been together 50+ years and still can't give each other a straight answer. People need to just accept it. It's not even exclusive. Heterosexual guys play mind games on each other, they're just way more obvious about it. We just complain about women's mind games, because we aren't nearly as good at it. If we were smarter, we'd be taking notes.
"if men would simply say what they want instead of saying what they think will make us happy then things would go more smoothly"
Not to contradict you mustang, but this will NEVER HAPPEN, and really only happens in sitcoms right before the man gets yelled at. Both sexes don't like to admit it, but I will, there is some truth to the gender stereotypes. If they were completely and patently false, nobody would believe them. The reason men say what they think will make you happy is because they want to make you happy. Is that so hard to understand?? Women some how managed to convince themselves that men are incredibly complicated, I have no idea how. Every week for ten years I've been going through the grocery stores with women's magazines by the cash register. Almost every week they claim to be revealing AMAZING SECRETS, MEN WON'T TELL! How many secrets do they think we're hiding??
(And for the record, I will admit I am hardly qualified to provide insights on relationships. I'm a confirmed bachelor, always have been, always will be. If there is a Mrs. Jadedcritic, knowing my luck, she's married to an abusive used car salesman who doesn't appreciate her.) So if you dissaprove of me, take consolation in the fact that I am likely out of the gene pool :toothy10:
