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What are people who you dumped and they don't seem to get the message? Stalkers and I unfourtunately got one. She says she love me but I don't love her. I wish she would just disappear and find someone else to bother.
 
Stalkers usually appear because you didn't end the relationship right. There's probably some issues or feelings that didn't get resolved the way it should have or how that person thinks it should have ended.
 
I had a stalker about a decade ago. Had nothing to even do with a relationship, there never was one between her and I. She lived down the street from a buddy of mine. Any time I went over to his house she would show up. She would literally sit in front of his house for hours waiting for me to come out to my car. She would repeatedly ask me out, tell me she loved me, all kinds of stuff like that. Eventually she got my phone number (I suspect a buddy of mine gave it to her trying to play a joke on me not knowing what it would turn into), she started showing up where I worked, and even started showing up at my house. I wound up having to get a restraining order after she threatened me at work one day. Told me if I didn't go out with her she was going to have her cousin, who she claimed was getting out of jail that day, come stab me. My boss heard her say this and called the cops on her. Day the restraining order was up she showed up at my job and asked me out again. She was nuts. This went on for about 6 years.

I recently saw her, but fortunately do not think she saw me. I was at the county courthouse for the final hearing in my divorce and there she was standing out in the hallway waiting for her case to be heard in the next courtroom over. Her and some guy were yelling at each other in the hallway about their custody case. It was a bit freaky. For about a month I was expecting it to all start up again.
 
True "stalkers" are unwell people who have a very hard time telling real life from the imaginary. They are sad indeed, but can also be very dangerous. Don't treat them casually - this is something to pay attention to and get assistance for. It's a very scary and devastating thing to experience. On the other hand, the stalker is experiencing some form of control that they've never had before. Serious stuff!
 
Fortunetly I haven't gotten a stalker yet which I';m pretty happy about considering msot relationships I end it...except the last one but lets skip that lol.)

But yeah msot are seriously crazy people , most not able to accept anything. sigh :( I hope I never get like that...that would be awful :(
 
Whatever. Just be sure you don't ASSume that every guy who shows interest in you is a stalker. Nothing pisses me off more, than girls who get disgusted when some random guy just smiles at them.
 
**** of U and Me ASSUME!

KorwinDallas said:
Whatever. Just be sure you don't ASSume that every guy who shows interest in you is a stalker. Nothing pisses me off more, than girls who get disgusted when some random guy just smiles at them.
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Lovey, never ASSume that Night would react the way some American or Canadian girls would act. She possesses to much Upper British Class to stoop to the level of stalking. She is mature enough to know that if you love someone let him go. If he returns it was meant to be; she is clever enough never to stalk a boy who isn't worth the effort or netting to catch him and she would never be in the company of boys who were drooling idiots. You sir or Madame are addressing one of the most highly intelligent and wisest young women on this post. :thumbsup:
 
Everyone calm down! I don't think Korwin was making a direct hit at Nighty - I feel it was a general statement, made from past experience. I love the way you come to our defense tho, Irish!! We ARE a virtuous bunch of women!:p
 
erm I didn't mean it to sound like that korwin :|. I love most of the guys I hang out with and know their all great, infact I'm friends with all of my exs...

if a guy smiles at me I thinkt heir stalking me? no way what the hell!!! I'm not that pathetic... :(
 
my girlfriend had a stalker before we were going out - i did my best to help her through it, but it damaged her self esteem and caused anxiety for her for more than a year.

part of the problem is the media (i know, i know, "blame the media")... how many movies have you seen where the guy gets the girl who rejects him by being persistent? often girls can be "too polite" to just drop a guy, and they'll feed him stuff like "oh, i'm busy that night" or avoid him - these can be construed as playing hard to get.

(turn that around to see some double standards - persistent women in movies are usually portrayed as creepy weirdos - think "wayne's world")

i'm not trying to incriminate the women, they're most certainly victims. but if everyone were educated in some stalker prevention tactics, like saying "no" clearly and early, this might be much less of a problem.
 
My ex stalked me. Was frightened to death of him. Eventually I moved far away. If I saw anyone who faintly resembled him I would go into panic mode. Terrifying experience when you fear for your life and can't tell anyone because of his high profile position in the media! Back then it was "Never tell" that you are being mistreated or abused! LIE, LIE and cover up!
 
I don't recall ever having the pressure of being stalked. I had a wife that used to always be trying to see where I was but it turns out she wasn't stalking me she just wanted to know that I was staying put in my old haunt with my pals so she could go and be with her pal and not have to be discovered.
 
Oh, the tangled webs... My ex-husband had me TOTALLY convinced of his virtues and that he WOULD NEVER stray that I didn't see what was happening before my own eyes. After the truth came out, his girlfriend (a prior best friend of mine) stalked ME just to try to drive me crazy. She almost succeeded - I was a very angry, unhappy and lost person then. I look back on it now and realize what a loser she was and still IS.
 
My ex died with cancer in the early 2000 or 2001 not too sure. I had not seen her since 1976. Too bad. I always wanted to someday get together just to see what she had changed about her life and for her to see how I had turned out. We would obviously been strangers but people think differently at 50 than they did at 20. Guess I will have to wait and discuss it in heaven. Wonder if her new husband will be there too?LOL
 
Who knows? Maybe it'll turn out that he's the type of person you may LIKE! Wouldn't that be nice!!
 
i had a stalker once, an ex of mine. he would leave notes on my car while i was working. my boss finally let me park in front of the building so he could keep an eye on it for me. this guy told me he would kill any guy that tried to be my b/f. eventually he apologized and stupid me forgave him and went back to him, finally it ended again and he started doing the same things again until he found a new girlfriend. now he doesnt even look at me if he sees me in public.
 
Ain't love grand! NOT. It is frightening. I knew of a professor who was stalked by her ex husband. He walked in on Easter Sunday to see his daughter. Told the daughter to run out of the house and he turned a shot the woman to death. She had a restraining order but until he did something to her it could not be enforced. Stupid law!
 
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