Thought I was past this petty **** with my SIL. DD's bday was last week. So SIL called up and said she had a gift for her and would like to stop by. Now as many may remember my SIL and I don't have the best relationship but still I thought we were past these issues of belittlement, etc. etc. Turns out she's still an ****. She gave DD a "secret" diary and then she writes in there that I'm a jerk and I'm ugly. EVEN if she MEANT this as a JOKE...it is NOT funny...in fact if I had done the same she would be flaming upset and there'd be a war etc. She wanted DD to come and sleep over at her house in a few wks. and this is SO NOT happening now. We will be conveniently "busy"....I'm not interested in even starting a war and I used this as a lesson to teach my DD how NOT to behave and act toward people in life in general. I'm NOT even going to address it with her since she can't behave like an adult anyway...this has made me cry and made me very sad...really thought we were past this! Thanks for letting me rant!
Sister in laws......
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It's too bad that she acts this way. Family should be someone you can rely on. We are having our own issues with dh's sisters right now. It's coming down to they're hurting our kids. What a shame!
That is terrible. Not only does that hurt you, it hurts your daughter. That is not the kind of influence you want for your children.
I don't even know how I would respond but definitely throw away the diary and not allow any other "gifts" from this person.
Please try not to let sil get to you.
I don't even know how I would respond but definitely throw away the diary and not allow any other "gifts" from this person.
Please try not to let sil get to you.
Hugs! What a ****.
I learned the hard way that just because you are related doesn't mean you have to take someones crap. Family should treat you better than a stranger on the street, not worse.
I learned the hard way that just because you are related doesn't mean you have to take someones crap. Family should treat you better than a stranger on the street, not worse.
She sounds like a toxic person stay away from her and keep your DD away from her too. Your life will be better off.
For months we had issues with my SIL. She wanted something that is not hers to have so we had to go see a lawyer to stop her from harassing us. After she got the call from the lawyer we haven't heard from her. Yeah, this is the same person that was stroking my DH when she thought she could rip him off and said "Oh I would give you a kidney if you needed it." She is just a jealous toxic ****. I want nothing to do with her.
For months we had issues with my SIL. She wanted something that is not hers to have so we had to go see a lawyer to stop her from harassing us. After she got the call from the lawyer we haven't heard from her. Yeah, this is the same person that was stroking my DH when she thought she could rip him off and said "Oh I would give you a kidney if you needed it." She is just a jealous toxic ****. I want nothing to do with her.
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Is this SIL your DH's sis or your brother's wife?
Either way, make sure they know what she did so there is no questioning of why you are cutting her out of your & your DD's life.
Either way, make sure they know what she did so there is no questioning of why you are cutting her out of your & your DD's life.
This is DH's sister...sadly she has done far worse than this...I'm not playing games any more with her...not going to start a war just not letting her see DD outside of family functions etc. etc. My babysitter bailed last night and she called DH because she wanted to stop by with DD's bday gift. He explained to her about the babysitter and she offered. He asked and I said she could come over and sit with her while we went to the movies...she HAD been behaving the last few yrs. but now I know better than to think she REALLY turned over a new leaf. She gave DD a bunch of stuff and one of the THINGS she gave her was a "secret" diary. Really pathetic and lame. Just beyond pathetic.
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Haven't talked to my SIL in probably 4 years. From what I read on facebook her and her kids are still full of lies, drama, and bullshit.
Best decision we ever made!
Best decision we ever made!
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I'm so sorry for you.
DH has 5 sisters. They act like they like me, but it's not really there. One year for Xmas BIL gave each sister a scroll telling them he had planned a girls' weekend in Florida. The gift was airfare, lodging and many activities. I didn't get one. His wife invited all the sisters, but since I wasn't "in the family" I wasn't invited. I had a hard time holding it together at that event! It pretty much told me where I stood. I think at that point we had been married 18 years and STILL they didn't consider me one of the family. I can't write any more, it still upsets me.
DH has 5 sisters. They act like they like me, but it's not really there. One year for Xmas BIL gave each sister a scroll telling them he had planned a girls' weekend in Florida. The gift was airfare, lodging and many activities. I didn't get one. His wife invited all the sisters, but since I wasn't "in the family" I wasn't invited. I had a hard time holding it together at that event! It pretty much told me where I stood. I think at that point we had been married 18 years and STILL they didn't consider me one of the family. I can't write any more, it still upsets me.
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Your SIL's behavior is beyond horrendous. Dh's side has some petty nut jobs, but behaviors like this just never cease to make my jaw drop.
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DH´s sis is an drunk one day she called and left several nasty messages for me, when dh got home I played them for him. He called he and told her to never call us again. That was last summer while it does hurt to cut a family member out you still have to do what is best for you and your family.
And I thought mine was bad. Some of these stories make my PITA SIL sound like an angel. My brother and SIL live just 25 minutes from us and we see them maybe 6 times a year. It makes me sad because my brother and I used to be close, but my SIL wears the pants in that family and my bro does whatever she says. I miss the old him.
That is how it is for my brother and SIL now too. Ever since they married, her side of the family is always the focus. They vacation together and spend every single holiday with her family, her family gets nice birthday gifts and we get nothing .. it's almost like we don't exist. Activities with my side of the family are only squeezed in here and there when they don't have something to do with her side of the family.
I could almost forgive SIL for that but I still can't forgive SIL for the crappy way she treated my mother when she was dying of cancer.
But if I push the issue, I'll lose what little chance I get to see my brother (and my niece) so I just deal with it. They are married and not splitting up so it is what it is. It's sad that it is this way for some families.
Feel bad for you, Kewpon addict. :-(
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OMG. Kick her ****!
That is beyond rude!
Drop her...throw away the diary...get a new one from 5below or somewhere... you can find them everywhere. What a SAD SAD person!
That is beyond rude!
Drop her...throw away the diary...get a new one from 5below or somewhere... you can find them everywhere. What a SAD SAD person!
You are doing the right thing. Do not take yourself down to her level. Two wrongs do not make a right. You are by far the level headed one here. Just try to let it go and move on. You and your family will be better off in the long run.
