Omg, today, when I went to see my therapist, after I saw her, a friend of mine randomly started kissing me and after I told him i was uncomfortable with it, he still continued and said : "Suck my ****, you can do that for me, right?" And he said : "If you like me, you'll want to do that to me. So my question is, even though I said yes, under his coercion and seduction, does it count as rape or sexual assault of any kind? Thats what I'm trying to figure out right now. Right now, I'm just scared. It was someone whom I totally trusted and didn't expect him to do that to me. So yeah, any good advice about what to do? And don't say tell my parents, because I can't tell them, they'll blame it on me and kick me out of the house, so yeah. Can't be in any worse than now. I feel so ashamed of myself and thinking, why didn't I defend myself against him? Its because its someone I knew, so I don't feel like calling the cops on him either. I tried to tell him to stop, but he wouldn't.
Sticky situation. I don't want to sound like the bad guy since I'm being honest so I'll tell you what I know based on my training. The military practically beats this stuff into the troops yearly even though it's unneeded. Those who committ crime will still do it commander briefing or not but I digress.
What I'll say next heavily depends on what you typed...although I don't think there's enough information to really say either way. However. I will comment based on the information given.
You said yes, correct? That's consent. If you said no or told him you were uncomfortable with it that would be revocation of consent and would be sexual harassment and/or battery. Without sexual intercourse it's not rape. The big thing is going to be what your reaction was - if you said yes, bottled up your objections, and went through with it then it's nothing. Consent is a two person thing and one cannot assume that the other knows what the other wants. We would need more to the story to really say anything - but this is the court of public opinion and we can't judge. I do not recommend seeking this sort of advice on a public forum.
So. Suggestions.
This forum isn't really the best theater for this sort of thing. You need to tell your parents because they need to know. It's important and **** whatever you think they'll think about you. That doesn't matter. You need to stay away said person and you need to make your objections clear. Say no if you are uncomfortable. Defend yourself if need be. You need to trust your parents to help you. At least confide in a school counselor.
Well @Seraph has basically summed it up. If you said yes and you were not drunk or anything then I don't think much can be done legally as you did give consent and it wasn't sexual intercourse. Best thing would be to ignore and avoid him as now he will just pressure you to do things in the future.
I agree with Seraph and Buddy the Elf. If you had stuck with your guns when you initially said you were uncomfortable with the situation, then it might have been different. I would avoid this person from now on, if you can possibly do that. If you do see this person again, don't give in to whatever their demands are. No matter how hard they try to pressure you. If they were your friend, they wouldn't have done this or acted in this way to begin with.
