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What are your opinions of people who do these things?
For those of you who aren't exactly sure what I mean, it's people who make a video and either talk or write their "suicide story" i.e, how they got there, why they are depressed, their attempted suicides and why they didn't do it.

Personally, I never really know what to think but most often I can't help but hate it when people do this. I've had serious suicidal thoughts and...let's say close shaves. I find my experiences difficult to even think about, let alone share with anyone else. There are some thoughts I've had run through my head that I don't want to recollect or tell anyone else ever and it throws up red flags when I see young people so willing to talk so bluntly about it on the internet, where their parents, family and friends can see it.

Thoughts?
 
Attention-seeking. I rarely discuss my depression and self-harm with even my closest friends. I would never discuss it in detail with strangers. I think the people that make those videos are liars and attention-seekers.
 
Mhm, I often want to say they're attention seekers too. I'd feel bad if it turns out they just really had a tough time and doing that made them feel better, but I struggle to understand. A girl at my school made one and I can't say I believe her at all, or she's using it to gain attention. It makes me really sad that suicide/self harm and depression have now become something "cool". "Like I have a mental condition and I'm depressed how cool am I guys!?!"
 
what i wonder about is that people who make a video qith cards written in them telling their story and then actually die. i dont like those videos. i think they are trying to bring attention the themselves.

however, i've also seen videos where people dying of some disease (cancer) make those videos and i find it heartbreaking. They don't get to decide if they live or not so they just tried to leave their impression while they are still alive.

i , myself, don't find that difficult to talk about it although i don't exactly talk to everyone about it. If they ask, i might reply (depending on who asks). if they don't, i will not start that conversation
 
Rebecca Chambers said:
Attention-seeking. I rarely discuss my depression and self-harm with even my closest friends. I would never discuss it in detail with strangers. I think the people that make those videos are liars and attention-seekers.
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Sure, some may be lying, and some may be doing it to get attention for themselves, but I think there are some that genuinely want to help others and make it feel like they're not the only one going through/have been through the same as them.
It's not a subject everybody feels needs to be taboo.

Lauren said:
A girl at my school made one and I can't say I believe her at all, or she's using it to gain attention. It makes me really sad that suicide/self harm and depression have now become something "cool". "Like I have a mental condition and I'm depressed how cool am I guys!?!"
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Why don't you believe her? Is it because she doesn't seem the type? People hide these things of course, I'm sure you hid it yourself. Just because of how someone acts in social situations it doesn't mean they can't be depressed, suicidal etc.
I don't think it's become cool to have one, I just think people are more open about it because it isn't as stigmatised as it was in the past.
 
I think in a way it's good because it's putting the issue out there and if anyone is going through a similar situation they know they aren't alone. I don't understand how anyone has the guts to post them ngl O_o Though I also think it's putting ideas in people's heads if that makes sense like yeah idk
 
Poontang said:
Why don't you believe her? Is it because she doesn't seem the type? People hide these things of course, I'm sure you hid it yourself. Just because of how someone acts in social situations it doesn't mean they can't be depressed, suicidal etc.
I don't think it's become cool to have one, I just think people are more open about it because it isn't as stigmatised as it was in the past.
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She has a history of doing the same thing. She's told people she was pregnant and had an ultra scan photo on all her internet profiles, then she took them down saying she had a miscarriage. My mom spoke to her mom about it to check she was okay and it turns out it was actually a lie, her mom has been dealing with her making things up all the time.
I don't believe her for that reason.

Other people I might believe, and it's not that I don't have any empathy for them, but it's just..I don't understand how they can do that. Especially when they post pictures of their SH etc, I don't think that's necessary at all.
 
I don't think I could ever make one of those.
I don't hate people who share their stories, though. It's a HUGE misconception that if you talk about your suicidal thoughts that means you are not serious about suicide and that is definitely NOT TRUE!
I don't agree that people who share their stories are attention seekers, as many do it just to show others what not to do and some people are experiencing life in a whole new, better way. Who wouldn't want to share when you've been miserable and depressed and then you eventually found greater meaning in your life and feel happier now?


But when it gets to the point of people sharing gory details and numbers/names of medications they've OD'd on/hospital names they went to/places they've SH'd and detailed descriptions of their attempted suicides, then I start to feel like that's too much information and it doesn't sound encouraging then, just triggering.
 
The ones with the cards are so ****ing annoying. Like speak you stupid **** you have a microphone on your webcam and I'm bored of reading your writing while listening to Bullet For My Valentine in the background.

Anyway, any story video I think is just the teller's way of sharing an experience. I don't think it's always attention seeking. You have YouTube "My ___ story" about everything (My coming out story, My drug addiction story, My anorexia story, My army experience) people love to share ****. Like I think it's just the way society is these days... We're constantly posting all our emotions on FB and Twitter (well, quite a lot are) and YouTube is just another way of doing that. That's how I see it anyway.
 
I've always seen it as a little bit of attention-seeking. I couldn't do it personally.
I know when I suffered with depression, I didn't want anyone to know and I tried my hardest not to show it until I had a bit of a breakdown. Even now I dislike talking about it to people, my own mother doesn't even know what I went through.
Staying at college focusing on the subject I enjoyed kept me out of the way of people, particularly when I'd stay from 5pm until around 9:30pm. It was silent, there was no one there and I was just... content in a way.
I could never really tell anyone who knows me personally, or let people put a face to it, other than the two people that saw me like it. I just don't feel like I've ever come across as that person. I've always been the one solving other people's problems.
 
More often than not, it's attention-seeking, but sometimes their wanting it for the right reasons; some people may do it just to gain sympathy, but others may be making the video as a cry for help. That said, I would have thought the time would be better invested telling a close friend, relative, or a professional, although on the other hand I suppose a lot of people would simply just like to share their stories. It's an individual thing and I can't really make up my mind about something which is different depending on the situation.

I remember that girl ages ago who committed suicide after having recorded a suicide video, and I bet most people now-a-days won't remember her name.
 
I think if you're really suffering with depression and suicidal thoughts, you'd keep it to yourself. For example, I've heard of some guy who committed suicide just a couple days ago and no-one really saw it coming. He was very popular and seemed happy, but then he chose to commit suicide. I think those who keep pretty quiet about these sort of things are the ones who are genuinely suffering.
I know that if I ever made one of those videos, the main reason for doing so would be to get attention or it'd be a last plea for help. A lot of the suicide stories sound pathetic to me tbh. It's always like, 'some girl called me a **** one day and it really hurt me' and from that one insult, their life gets progressively worse and they get grounded by their parents because they mitched a lesson (badass). I can honestly say, I've been through enough **** to last me a lifetime, but I don't let it get to me, I stay strong and get on with life. I don't dwell on one insult and suddenly turn into some self-harming, depressed person, like some of these people. A lot of the teens who make these vids are just ridiculously hormonal, they think that everything that happens in high school really matters, when we all know it doesn't and this video sums it up perfectly, and are usually just spoilt brats and can't handle the smallest of things. The strongest ones, are the quietest ones imo.
 
Hannah said:
I think if you're really suffering with depression and suicidal thoughts, you'd keep it to yourself.
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I think those who keep pretty quiet about these sort of things are the ones who are genuinely suffering
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Most people keep quiet about it for fear of being judged. You have perfectly outlined one of the reasons why so few people come forward about it. "You're can't be depressed 'cause you talk about it. Real depressed people don't talk about it or look for help, I don't believe you".
If that man had been open about how he felt instead of being quiet about it, would you have believed him? Judging from what you said above, no. If more people weren't afraid of views like this or fewer people had views like this, then maybe there wouldn't be as many cases like that one.

A lot of the suicide stories sound pathetic to me tbh. It's always like, 'some girl called me a **** one day and it really hurt me' and from that one insult, their life gets progressively worse and they get grounded by their parents because they mitched a lesson (badass). I can honestly say, I've been through enough **** to last me a lifetime, but I don't let it get to me, I stay strong and get on with life. I don't dwell on one insult and suddenly turn into some self-harming, depressed person, like some of these people.
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Everyone handles pain differently. Sure, you've probably been through a lot of bad ****, but this girl may have never been insulted like that before so her pain to that one insult may be as strong as your pain to whatever you've been through. Some people have never been through things as harsh as others have been through, but it doesn't mean their pain is any less valid or real than theirs. Everyone is different, and some people find dealing with pain or 'staying strong' really difficult.
All it can take is one insult.

they think that everything that happens in high school really matters, when we all know it doesn't and this video sums it up perfectly, and are usually just spoilt brats and can't handle the smallest of things.
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See above. For some teenagers, high school is the biggest part of their lives right now. They spend the majority of their time there on a day-to-day basis, they're under stress from teachers, parents, peers. Sometimes it can be too much. Just because it doesn't seem important to some people, doesn't mean it isn't important to others. At that point in time, where school is one of the biggest thing of their lives so far, school problems do matter.
 
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If it's just attention-seeking, who cares? If someone is that desperate for attention, they need help.

Either way, if someone is depressed or suicidal enough to talk about it, they should not be ignored. Doing so undermines the severity of the issue and makes people think that such thoughts are acceptable.
 
I'm with Regulus and Vamp on this. Both have made extremely valid and in my eyes, correct points to back it up.
They may be attention-seeking, but there's a possibility they need that attention and need the help.
 
I use sites where you share confessions, I'm on another site where you share life experiences. Most of these are about my past relationships and other abuse. I guess I'm still troubled by them and a lot of things in my past. I sometimes ask myself why I'm constantly looking for somewhere to share my experiences. I guess it's a cry for help but wherever I go, I never get the support I'm searching for, yet I don't have the courage or patience to ask for genuine help. I'm in a never ending circle. I have actually thought about making a kind of video like this, sharing my whole life story. Not really talking about depression & suicide, but to let people know what I've been through, maybe even showing others that it's possible to get over certain things and these problems can make you stronger.
 
Hannah said:
I use sites where you share confessions, I'm on another site where you share life experiences. Most of these are about my past relationships and other abuse. I guess I'm still troubled by them and a lot of things in my past. I sometimes ask myself why I'm constantly looking for somewhere to share my experiences. I guess it's a cry for help but wherever I go, I never get the support I'm searching for, yet I don't have the courage or patience to ask for genuine help. I'm in a never ending circle. I have actually thought about making a kind of video like this, sharing my whole life story. Not really talking about depression & suicide, but to let people know what I've been through, maybe even showing others that it's possible to get over certain things and these problems can make you stronger.
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To get genuine support you may require one-to-one help, but you don't always have to see these people in reality.
I'm sure there are websites with specific people who can help you and be someone to talk to, it's just finding them.
It'd be easier for you to speak to the same person repeatedly rather than a group of different people each time, they won't be able to help you on how you've grown since your first chat, it's be less personal and it can sometimes be pretty hard to share details with a group of people rather than an individual.
 
[MENTION=1403]Han[/MENTION] I've contacted an online counsellor today, so maybe she will help me to understand myself and my problems.
 
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