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Every weekend for years I have spent on my own, it's really frustrating because the main reason I didn't make friends at college was because I had numerous trips to the hospital. Eventually I had to quit college because it was interfering with my studies too much. The result of this means I've been left on my own and don't have anyone to hang out with. Does anyone else suffer like this? and if you do how do you cope, or what did you do to change it?
 
I never go out. I have one friend in real life but he's often at work or with people I don't mix well with (in environments I equally don't enjoy). Fortunately I have [MENTION=2]Lauren[/MENTION] whom I see every week or so to keep me from becoming really bored.

Other than that, playing games with my online friends or talking to people on Confab-It keep me occupied. :)
 
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I never go out. I have one friend in real life but he's often at work or with people I don't mix well with (in environments I equally don't enjoy). Fortunately I have [MENTION=2]Lauren[/MENTION] whom I see every week or so to keep me from becoming really bored.

Other than that, playing games with my online friends or talking to people on Confab-It keep me occupied. :)
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Oh well I suppose I am not the only one then :D
 
I only have close friends due to them being my classmates in sixth form. I don't leave the house/meet new people very often and if I do then its with said friends.

I'm happy with my own company, my boyfriend and my family really :)
 
I'm usually alone on the weekends as well. That's usually fine by me, I like to spend my weekends by myself. Usually if I am feeling lonely, I can chat with my friends on Facebook or just random strangers on the internet. That usually keeps me occupied.

Otherwise, if you have the time, you should just go out and talk to people! It's honestly not that hard, the only thing that will hold you back is yourself. Talking to strangers is all you need to do to make new friends.
 
I'm alone a lot, but it's mostly because I choose to be.
I don't consider it to be suffering at all. I just have a better time when I'm by myself.

I think to find friends it can be difficult when you're not in social situations often, like work or school. I think doing social events like volunteering at different charities can be a great social outlet.
 
I have boyfriend and that's absolutely it. My other kne friend doesn't lie hanging out, and the people that say ythey want to hang out never Li e up to their word. I cry all the time 'cause the lack of socialization outside my family sometimes, especially if my boyfriend is busy with one of his friends.
 
This thread has helped me alot as well as you, [MENTION=1027]kyama3[/MENTION] by just realising I'm not alone! No-one bothers with me so I never bother with them. Or when I do try to form a friendship, they're just not interested or just seem off with me. The two girls I'm "closest" too, both have boyfriends which understandably take up all their time, just like mine does. I very rarely go out, or get invited out nowadays. But since becoming less social, I've started to prefer my own company and so I can't be in too many social situations over a long period of time. Like I see my boyfriend every day and have done for 3 months and I'm already happy about the idea of having at least one day away from him so I have time to do other things I enjoy, like drawing, gaming, networking etc. I'm one of those half extrovert, half introvert people. I'm very confident, happy and social when in social situations, but I'm also content with being alone, but I have to have a balance. I dislike being alone for too long, whereas introverts like being alone pretty much all the time and I dislike being in company too much. It's hard to please myself. :lol:

I'll admit, some days, I find it hard and it feels like everyone has at least one best friend they can tell everything to and see regularly, but I don't have that. Other days, I realise that most of the people who never bothered with me, wouldn't make good friends anyway. I realise that I'm better off without them and I have less to worry about! Luckily, I have a boyfriend but there was a period where I was single for a while and I was extremely lonely and depressed. I had no friends to support me when dealing and getting out of an abusive relationship. I couldn't stand seeing films with close friends in or even friendship pictures anymore, thinking that they all have support by their side and I have no-one. But I just got on with life. I told myself there'll be new opportunities to meet new people and I'll just be patient for that one true, life-long friendship to come along sooner or later. I'm going to college in September with all new people, so hopefully, my personality will attract people like it did in high school and I'll make some life-long friends there!
Whenever I feel sociable, I'll go on chat rooms and speak to people there. I have to say, I have made some of the greatest friends online who can be just as supportive as a friend you'd have in person.

I joined kickboxing at the beginning of this year, and I only managed to make friends with a 12 year old :lol: but she was confident enough to speak to me first and I initially thought she was older. I also met my boyfriend there. So joining clubs could help you make at least acquaintances. I don't speak to the girl outside of kickboxing though, she's not a proper friend but we do have a laugh sometimes. I'm always the happiest there because it's my main form of social interaction nowadays and it's just a positive atmosphere.

I always encourage my boyfriend to see friends though. It was just today that I was telling him to hang out with a friend of his who calls him every day and asks to hang out, but he always says he's busy (which he is) but has time to fit me into his schedule. I told him that I'm not lucky enough to have a friend calling me every day, so eager to hang out. I felt like he was just taking his friend for granted, whilst there's me, dying for one! I'd love to be super social, away from my boyfriend. I feel like a strong, independent individual when I have a boyfriend, but also have a social life away from him. But I just can't. I forgot how hard it is to make genuine friendships nowadays, especially after leaving high school!

You just have to remember that you're going to meet people throughout your life and mainly in your career, which all could become potential friends so don't worry too much about it. Till then, you're always welcome to chat with me! :)
 
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I actually don't have trouble making friends with people. However, this past year, all my friends have been busy with college, so it kind of makes me feel alienated.
Whenever they do go out, it tends to be clubs, and since my anxiety causes issues with that, I spend a lot of nights at home by myself. I hate it.

Forums do genuinely help me feel like I'm interacting though. :)
 
Well I'm single for one, seems like I'm the only one on this site :p


I do have great friends but as I'm currently without accommodation in my uni city I've moved back to my parents home over summer. I've pretty much lost touch with school friends so I'm a little bit alone over summer.

In September I should go back to being a butterfly though.
 
I quit highschool for reasons, and work from home, so for me to be around people took quite some effort, I basically went out and tried to meet people with similar interests, I like mountain biking so I started helping out a local sports group, they organize rides and stuff for beginners, races, etc, they needed the help so by helping I like to think I made some friends, most weekends we get together and ride, it's cool.

But then I thought that I still had too much free time, so I joined the local firefighters, great way to meet people, and you're definitely giving good use to your time.

Also joined a theatre club, I only went because a friend asked me to go with her, but it's kind of cool so I'm thinking of staying.
 
Let's see. I am pretty much a loner myself because I am afraid people might reject me if I open up to them. I had a decent of number of friends growing up. However, we had to move to the country when I was in high school and I struggled making new friends. I only have like 5 close friends in college and after we graduated we had our separate ways and rarely get in touch. The same case is with my work. My friends are the people in my department but I do not know anyone else inside the building.
 
kyama3 said:
Every weekend for years I have spent on my own, it's really frustrating because the main reason I didn't make friends at college was because I had numerous trips to the hospital. Eventually I had to quit college because it was interfering with my studies too much. The result of this means I've been left on my own and don't have anyone to hang out with. Does anyone else suffer like this? and if you do how do you cope, or what did you do to change it?
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I really don't go out that much either :) I feel very happy with my own company and I really enjoy being alone most of the time. I tried to be social a while back, but I realized it was too exhausting for me (I'm very introverted). I've a boyfriend now... he's just like me!!!! He prefers to stay at home every single night, rather than going out to party or meeting up with friends :P

I've the strange tendency to push people away... or at least that's what some people say. It's just I don't get along with everyone (I don't like fake people who is so nice when you're present, but starts criticizing you the minute you turn you back!). I stop talking to that people once I find out they're fake and are not genuinely interested on having a open and sincere friendship with me. I usually mind my own business... I don't like to gossip around or talk behind the back of others; there are way better things to talk about, like: science, books, movies, video games, etc. Some people find that odd about me... but to be honest I no longer care about what they think :)


I've a couple of good friends, but I rarely go out :D I just enjoy being at home, lol!

I know it can be hard to live this way for some... specially if this wasn't what you chose. Is there a chance you can join a club or something like that? It could help you a lot to meet new people and to come out of your shell :)
 
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I work from home, so that can be hard. I see no one but my wife five days a week, and even then I only see her for a couple of hours a day. It's not easy.

I'm not very socially adept but I'm trying. I have to. I try to get out on the weekends and catch up with whomever wants to spend time with me. If I didn't try to interact with other human beings on a regular basis then I just slide further into depression (which is something I've had to deal with all my life). If I could be emotionally happy with being a hermit, I totally would be, but I'm not made that way. I need to see a friendly face or two, otherwise I would easily fade away... and that's a scary thought.
 
I work from home too. I used to be in a big circle of friends. I still try to connect with them once in a while. As you age I guess it's true that your priorities change and so as your friends.
 
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