I wont go into detail and I'll keep it short but, how do you get over a relationship?
I was with this guy, let's call him "A", for almost two years. He was my dream guy at first but, suddenly something changed in him where he became mentally abusive, cheated, lied, and corrupted me.
Through all of that, I stayed with him, until he broke it off last year.
I cried and was depressed for months, and he had the nerve to lead me on, and we had sort of a...sexual fling while he was seeing someone else.
Well, you see, I still have feelings for him, and if he asked me back out, I'm pretty sure I'd take him back.
It's been over a year apart but, I still miss him on occasion, and even though he is a compulsive liar, I sort of kinda want him back.
I know he isn't good for me and he put me into a severe state of depression while I was with him but, ugh...he was my first real love.
How do I get over him? I can't stay hooked forever...
Done rebounds, friends live in another state, and everything else just numbs it for the moment. Nothing, except for a Dark Moon Ritual I attended with Cadaverous, has helped.
I think you need new hobbies. Try to find something you are curious about. and try to make new friends. i mean , i grew up here all my life and i didnt have any friends. then i went to uni and now that i am back, i started to do krav maga and made friends there :D
Focus on his bad points.
Would you want this man to be in sole charge of your future children?
Would you trust him not to cheat?
Would he ever hurt you psychically? He might do?
Think about how much better another fish in the sea could be. Is there the possibility that if someone who was "better" came along would you go with them?
Your ex treated you like **** and you deserve better than to be cheated on. Nobody is perfect but fidelity and love has to be there.
On top of what everyone else has said, never think about whatever good attributes he may have; you'll find yourself justifying your reasons for wanting to be with him based on those alone, no matter how insignificant ("Oh, he did this for me once...maybe he is worth another shot"). Remember all the negative he's done, because in my opinion he's undeserving of a second chance from what you've told us.
You'll find someone much, much better. < Convince yourself of that and don't settle for any less.
Constant negativity isn't generally a good way to feel better about anything, though... I'd suggest more positive, constructive outlets, if at all possible :s
I get that but talking from experience, when I tried to get over someone if I thought about all their good attributes I got depressed because I was torn but realising all their bad attributes made me feel like I'd be okay on my own without that person. You shouldn't dwell on the positive could-be's if you want to disregard that person in your life. Thinking about their negatives provides you with positives in your own life
