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Casual friends with a lady?

Heatman

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What's your take on being in a casual friendly relationship with a lady? Do you think that it's something workable or would you be putting yourself in a situation where you would find it very difficult to control your feelings over what you can't have? How far can you go with a casual friendship with a lady before moving it up to romantic relationship?
 
As long as we define our relationship or friendship in the beginning, I wouldn't put myself in a position where I would start developing feelings for the lady and I won't give her any reasons to have one for me.
 
Maxwell said:
As long as we define our relationship or friendship in the beginning, I wouldn't put myself in a position where I would start developing feelings for the lady and I won't give her any reasons to have one for me.
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This is something some people find it very difficult to do in their relationship with casual friends. They don't define it until everything gets messed up.
 
I've had female friends in the past so it's fine. However there was one friend who I ended up falling for, but I never told her my feelings. I didn't want to ruin our friendship, and honestly she seemed kind of controlling. As long as you state we're just friends and communicate that if one of us ever crosses that line it could ruin a good friendship. This happened to my wife actually, she was friends with this guy and they even mentioned that if any one of them were starting to have romantic feelings for the other person, it would ruin the friendship and sure enough he fell for her and she stopped talking to him.
 
It is always sad when you cannot express your feelings because you know the implication of doing so and it is going to cost you your friendship. This is why I try as much as possible to eliminate getting into such kind of friendship in the first place.
 
Ravenfreak said:
I've had female friends in the past so it's fine. However there was one friend who I ended up falling for, but I never told her my feelings. I didn't want to ruin our friendship, and honestly she seemed kind of controlling. As long as you state we're just friends and communicate that if one of us ever crosses that line it could ruin a good friendship. This happened to my wife actually, she was friends with this guy and they even mentioned that if any one of them were starting to have romantic feelings for the other person, it would ruin the friendship and sure enough he fell for her and she stopped talking to him.
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People keep putting themselves in a very difficult situation with the kind of arrangement they agree to. You can't be with a lady who's sweet as a person and not fall for her and vice versa with men. I can never do that to myself.
 
Demon_skeith said:
I'm friends with a few women with no romantic intent, even though I'm seeking a gf, having a few female friends is nice.
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As long they're true friends and not the type that would be looking for ways to exploit your friendship with them, that's cool.
 
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