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Parenting like your parents?

I was raised well aside from the "bubble-wrapping". Caring and being protective is one thing, but I'm seriously suffocated and they're only just starting to understand.
 
I often feel like I wasn't cared about as much as my siblings. A lot of things that happened to me in the past were downplayed or ignored completely. An example would be breaking my foot once when I was younger, and being told "you don't need to go to the hospital, it's just a sprain. You'll be fine." A week later they finally gave in, and it turned out I had a hairline fracture in my ankle. Similarly when I was attacked in school by a boy with a cricket bat, I ended up breaking my finger shielding my head. The only reason I got it looked at was because I went to hospital on my own the next day. I skipped school to do it.

On my father's side I can understand it to an extent; I'm not his biological daughter. I was born through my mother's rape, which I think also explains the reason why I get frowned on for going out late at night. Not so much because what I'm doing is bad, but simply through fear.

Even now, illnesses, injuries, pretty much everything I do is downplayed. My depression was, and still is, ignored completely. Despite the fact I'm on medication for it, as well as the fact I spent three months seeing a psychotherapist (which was useless to me). I don't like that, and I'll never treat my children that way. I want them to never feel afraid of coming to me with a problem, and I don't want them to feel embarrassed or scared of the reaction.
 
Lauren said:
I was raised well aside from the "bubble-wrapping". Caring and being protective is one thing, but I'm seriously suffocated and they're only just starting to understand.
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My parents used to do that too. Well, my mom, mostly.
I definitely understand how frustrating it can be when parents try to hang on to you too tightly. I'm sure they'll come around, though. It just takes time. :)

Rebecca Chambers said:
On my father's side I can understand it to an extent; I'm not his biological daughter. I was born through my mother's rape, which I think also explains the reason why I get frowned on for going out late at night. Not so much because what I'm doing is bad, but simply through fear.
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It would make sense to be frowned upon for going out late at night, whether you're your parents biological child or not. But I wouldn't consider not being a biological child a good reason to just neglect a child's physical health needs! I'm sorry that you felt like you were being ignored. You aren't the first person I know who's said that their parents seem to downplay things that happen to them. Meh. Unfortunately, parents aren't perfect and these kinds of things happen.
 
i think i'd take some points of how they parented, but there are a lot of times where what they did was completely wrong.
they did a pretty good job- they were absolutely excellent in a lot of ways, but they all flubbed up big-time in a lot of others.
so i think i'd use a chunk of their style, but i'd tweak it quite a bit for sure.
 
Hmm..

My parents had some really good,solid rules and techniques that I would like to incorporate with my daughter. Things like being expected to help with chores because it was all part of being a part of the family. Getting an allowance to learn the value of money and learn to be smart with it etc.

They also started some really great traditions with my brother and I that I'm definitely going to pass on to my daughter.

That being said they were fairly strict and often close minded about controversial topics. I'd like to be more open with my daughter about sex,partying,drugs/alcohol and whatnot since my parents' attitude in that regards didn't benefit me at all.
 
I'd parent differently. I'd be less protective than my parents are but have a closer relationship with my kids. I think they only did that people of my brother having Autism.
 
I turned out okay. I'd personally be a completely different parent, but the way my mum parented me has made me who I am, being independent, mature and I guess out of the ordinary.
 
I'd be completely different to my Dad... really annoys me how he treated me and how oblivious I was but at least I know how not to treat my children and how to be the best parent ever and my Mum is pretty awesome but I don't think I'd be as weak as her :)
 
Both my parents have conflicting personalities.

My Mum is pretty fun, and approachable At least since she left work. She used to be pretty horrible to me.
Her response when she found out I drank when I was younger was "Okay, you can have alcohol as long as you're supervised and responsible", and said the same applied for cigarettes. She isn't exactly the most able minded of people though, and I struggle to find satisfying help with her when I'm in need. However, even if she is critical, she will try her best to help.

My Dad is more serious, and impatient. He will remark to my mum that she is supposed to be a parent, not a friend. He does have the ability to help, however, but when I ask for hgis help, I wind up regretting it because he'll get mad. Fast.

I think I'd like to take an approach of both parents. To be patient, and helpful.
But perhaps that's wishful thinking.
 
I'll parent like my mom, I know. My dad? No. Just no. My mom taught us to be respectful, polite, and open-minded about different aspects of life and the people in it. She also taught us good work ethic and the value of earning what is ours.
 
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