Ok, I know I post a lot about advices for my high school years in this here site, because I know this is a place where I can spill all my problems I try to hide and get real advices. Thank you guys for that. Now, I have always been seeking advice on making more friends, primarily girls, lately, but today I gathered all my issues that I have right now, so I can apply the advices I get to all related situations in life.
To start off, I've had problems fitting in until last year in eighth grade. Last year was a year ehere I went through drastic changes in my social life. Read all about it here: http://www.confab-it.com/showthread.php?2231-Eighth-grade-my-experience&highlight=
I graduated middle school in peace and now I am a high schooler. High school is going well for me right now. I'm able to have somewhat a connection with all the people in my middle school that I've only barely known from last year because of my "popularity" by liking their pictures on facebook instagram and such. Furthermore, I am meeting new people that I hope to get to know this year, which is the main problem for me now.
First of all, I joined marching band as a trumpet player, and there is this really pretty girl in my section. Like, no joke. Her wavy blonde hair...beautiful smile... She's undoubtly one of the most beautiful girls that I have ever met. And I know that she's pretty friendly too because I see her around with many other of her friends.
She most definitely knows me, because she knows who I am, and I've had some conversations with her before.
Also, she already has a boyfriend. So all I can really do is cheer on their relationship with her and become of her good friends. She has no classes with me and she is a year ahead of me, which might be a problem. I see her around at marching band practices. What I do NOT want to do is steal her from her boyfriend and make someone sad. But at the same time, I dont know how i can hold in my infatuation towards her, because this has really been going on for two months >.< I might need to even tell her in the future.
There are also other people in my school who I'd like to make friends with as well. Several of them are in the same grade as me, while others are people who I only see during brunch, lunch, and when I come and see my high school's sports teams. Few of those are in matching band.
Now, here's the thing. As you may know from my past post, last year I was too obsessed with this one girl that I was not able to distinguish what's wrong and what's right. In other words, I acted ratchet around her because I was too desperate and wasn't myself. In addition, I've learned the hard way to never act arrogant ,selfish, and do things just for your satisfaction and not care about other people and what they feel. Like, no one can even begin to be your friend if you have those traits. Therefore, even though I somehow know that I'll always be fine as long as I look after my actions carefully, I'm still sort of afraid that I'll make those terrible mistakes again with another person. I know that the past is the past.
In conclusion, as you can see, I'm experiencing a sort of conflict towards making friends and primarily girls, and I want to know what I could do to deal with them. I know this was as long as hell, but all advice is appreciated.
To start off, I've had problems fitting in until last year in eighth grade. Last year was a year ehere I went through drastic changes in my social life. Read all about it here: http://www.confab-it.com/showthread.php?2231-Eighth-grade-my-experience&highlight=
I graduated middle school in peace and now I am a high schooler. High school is going well for me right now. I'm able to have somewhat a connection with all the people in my middle school that I've only barely known from last year because of my "popularity" by liking their pictures on facebook instagram and such. Furthermore, I am meeting new people that I hope to get to know this year, which is the main problem for me now.
First of all, I joined marching band as a trumpet player, and there is this really pretty girl in my section. Like, no joke. Her wavy blonde hair...beautiful smile... She's undoubtly one of the most beautiful girls that I have ever met. And I know that she's pretty friendly too because I see her around with many other of her friends.
She most definitely knows me, because she knows who I am, and I've had some conversations with her before.
Also, she already has a boyfriend. So all I can really do is cheer on their relationship with her and become of her good friends. She has no classes with me and she is a year ahead of me, which might be a problem. I see her around at marching band practices. What I do NOT want to do is steal her from her boyfriend and make someone sad. But at the same time, I dont know how i can hold in my infatuation towards her, because this has really been going on for two months >.< I might need to even tell her in the future.
There are also other people in my school who I'd like to make friends with as well. Several of them are in the same grade as me, while others are people who I only see during brunch, lunch, and when I come and see my high school's sports teams. Few of those are in matching band.
Now, here's the thing. As you may know from my past post, last year I was too obsessed with this one girl that I was not able to distinguish what's wrong and what's right. In other words, I acted ratchet around her because I was too desperate and wasn't myself. In addition, I've learned the hard way to never act arrogant ,selfish, and do things just for your satisfaction and not care about other people and what they feel. Like, no one can even begin to be your friend if you have those traits. Therefore, even though I somehow know that I'll always be fine as long as I look after my actions carefully, I'm still sort of afraid that I'll make those terrible mistakes again with another person. I know that the past is the past.
In conclusion, as you can see, I'm experiencing a sort of conflict towards making friends and primarily girls, and I want to know what I could do to deal with them. I know this was as long as hell, but all advice is appreciated.
